Sorry to hear about this Lisa. From reading some of your replies, it looks like you are already walking back into the light, which is excellent! It sounds trite, but you get what you give, and you have given so much of yourself to help others who are going through similar challenges. You have touched and helped many people - probably more than you know. All that good energy flows back to you as well. I'm sending you a big virtual hug - good things are to come!
Sorry to hear this Lisa. I know you want to live- the world is too good to leave as are the people in it. Hang on to what is good even a tiny bit. Seek help if it is all too much.
You have been there for us. We are there for you, albeit virtually and for me many miles away. Xxx
Ah bless you Lisa, my heart goes out to you and virtual warm hugs ❤️❤️❤️ It is indeed very hard to pull yourself out of the doldrums as I call them now.... but as we have all learnt, these feelings, thoughts, emotions, symptoms always pass because they are all there to preserve and protect us (albeit highly sensitised due to the virus). I thank myself for being worried, panicked etc these days and give myself plenty of reassurance and these horrible moments, hours or days pass a little quicker. And of course it helps to share how you feel and we all know exactly how you feel. My issue is that I easily get frustrated that I can’t control my body so easily as before. Self compassion and reassurance and surrender, which is what you are doing, are the best way to bounce back. So give yourself a hug big bear hug from me and I hope you have a better day xxx xxxx
Bear hug received - thank you, Kath! I realized last night that I’m still sort of fighting with my own nervous system - trying to muscle it into a calmer state. I started just repeating “I accept where you are” over and over out loud to my body, and it felt like a blanket of warmth wrapping around me. I could literally feel my blood pressure dropping.
Lisa, I had what I recognized as a mini-panic attack the other day -- I have never had a panic attack, but I felt like I was starting to have one. I know enough about what to do about them (having worked with many people who have them) that I was able to slow it down and not go into it full-blown. But I felt like I needed/wanted someone to talk me through it; I called a friend of mine who is also a therapist and she reminded me of a mindfulness/compassion process (from Tara Brach, I think) called RAIN -- Recognize, Allow, Investigate, Nurture. The thing that really helped me in that moment was ALLOW -- the idea that I didn't have to STOP myself from panicking, that I could just let myself feel what I was feeling. Hearing that word felt like it started to let the air out of the balloon, and it quickly calmed me.
I sent you a separate email about your whole experience, but just thought I'd share this here.....
I’m sorry you went through that stressful experience but so much appreciate your sharing it, Candy! When I was in the trauma situation, I was trying so hard to calm my nervous system down and I think that’s the thing I didn’t do in the moment - allow my own panic response. I obviously don’t fault myself for that. I wasn’t the one who was being reckless and cruel. But it’s a learning I hope to carry forward with me . . . and also a learning I hope to never need quite so acutely!
Scientific research has shown that self love and compassion, as well as loving others, actively calms down the emotional centre ie the amygdala. It’s like a gift or a balm that we can consciously apply.
Sorry to hear about this Lisa. From reading some of your replies, it looks like you are already walking back into the light, which is excellent! It sounds trite, but you get what you give, and you have given so much of yourself to help others who are going through similar challenges. You have touched and helped many people - probably more than you know. All that good energy flows back to you as well. I'm sending you a big virtual hug - good things are to come!
Thank you, Frank! I have felt so much love from so many people today. It’s been a beautiful and unexpected gift. 💕
Sorry to hear this Lisa. I know you want to live- the world is too good to leave as are the people in it. Hang on to what is good even a tiny bit. Seek help if it is all too much.
You have been there for us. We are there for you, albeit virtually and for me many miles away. Xxx
Thank you, Jane! I’m doing much better today. Bit by bit, my nervous system is calming. Feeling love and support from all of you is so helpful! 💕
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Ah bless you Lisa, my heart goes out to you and virtual warm hugs ❤️❤️❤️ It is indeed very hard to pull yourself out of the doldrums as I call them now.... but as we have all learnt, these feelings, thoughts, emotions, symptoms always pass because they are all there to preserve and protect us (albeit highly sensitised due to the virus). I thank myself for being worried, panicked etc these days and give myself plenty of reassurance and these horrible moments, hours or days pass a little quicker. And of course it helps to share how you feel and we all know exactly how you feel. My issue is that I easily get frustrated that I can’t control my body so easily as before. Self compassion and reassurance and surrender, which is what you are doing, are the best way to bounce back. So give yourself a hug big bear hug from me and I hope you have a better day xxx xxxx
Bear hug received - thank you, Kath! I realized last night that I’m still sort of fighting with my own nervous system - trying to muscle it into a calmer state. I started just repeating “I accept where you are” over and over out loud to my body, and it felt like a blanket of warmth wrapping around me. I could literally feel my blood pressure dropping.
Lisa, I had what I recognized as a mini-panic attack the other day -- I have never had a panic attack, but I felt like I was starting to have one. I know enough about what to do about them (having worked with many people who have them) that I was able to slow it down and not go into it full-blown. But I felt like I needed/wanted someone to talk me through it; I called a friend of mine who is also a therapist and she reminded me of a mindfulness/compassion process (from Tara Brach, I think) called RAIN -- Recognize, Allow, Investigate, Nurture. The thing that really helped me in that moment was ALLOW -- the idea that I didn't have to STOP myself from panicking, that I could just let myself feel what I was feeling. Hearing that word felt like it started to let the air out of the balloon, and it quickly calmed me.
I sent you a separate email about your whole experience, but just thought I'd share this here.....
I’m sorry you went through that stressful experience but so much appreciate your sharing it, Candy! When I was in the trauma situation, I was trying so hard to calm my nervous system down and I think that’s the thing I didn’t do in the moment - allow my own panic response. I obviously don’t fault myself for that. I wasn’t the one who was being reckless and cruel. But it’s a learning I hope to carry forward with me . . . and also a learning I hope to never need quite so acutely!
Scientific research has shown that self love and compassion, as well as loving others, actively calms down the emotional centre ie the amygdala. It’s like a gift or a balm that we can consciously apply.